A special day

Happy Birthday Sweetheart. I love you.
Always, Your True
xo

Just two words...

Thank you. You have no idea what your loving support means right now - truly you don't. So...thank you.

"Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me." Psalm 50:15

Time for a little honesty...

So...after an exchange of emails over the last couple of days with a friend (and you know who you are) and some (OK, a lot) of introspection, I think the time has come to not only be honest with myself but you, my blogging "family" as well.

And since it's Monday, I will begin with this video...

**Scroll down and pause my player before clicking the link**

Motions ~ Matthew West

Going through the motions. That's been my life for these past 9+ months.

As Christians, we speak of "transparency." Exposing our true selves - faults, warts and all. Letting others see the ugly parts of us that we normally keep tucked away so they won't think less of us. Deep breath...

People ask me how I'm doing. I say "fine." Or "hanging in there, thanks for asking." But that's not being honest. It's telling them what they want to hear, what they want to believe because after 9 months I should be OK, right? After all, I'm not the first woman to lose a husband...sigh.

The truth is:

I feel like my life ended when my Sweet Hubby's did. I have no interest in anything, I don't have any energy or motivation to do anything. I work when I feel up to it, but definitely can't even consider it part time. I am withdrawing from everyone and everything. And I just really don't care...I may smile on the outside but I feel dead on the inside. I guess feeling nothing is the same as feeling dead, isn't it?

Someone emailed me today that they check my blog if they don't hear from me knowing that if something were really wrong it would be on my blog. Nothing could be further from the truth!! Because the truth is ugly...see? Why would I want anyone to really know how (or how little, actually) I'm feeling? They might see that I (gasp!) don't have it all together. That I'm actually quite a big mess, in fact.

I'm a walking catastrophe mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I feel like in my present state of being, I let everyone down. My family, my friends, my husband and my God. I want to do better...but then again - I just don't care. I don't have the wherewithal to do anything about it. What a crossroads, huh?

I've always been a strong-willed person. Ask anyone who knows me - they'll tell you...this is not my normal state. I'm a "get in the trenches and do what you need to do" type of person. I've never been afraid to get dirty. And things got plenty dirty when my Sweet Hubby got sick.

But since I lost him, I feel like I've lost everything. We shared everything. Now, I share nothing...

I'm just going through the motions.

So like the song said...I don't care if I break - at least I'll be feeling something. And something's got to be better than nothing. Right?

I've been mulling over posting about all of this since receiving two specific emails from GriefShare:

Express your tears and your pain. In order to move on, you cannot push down and pocket your emotions; they must be fully communicated for you to heal.

"Everyone cries," says Dr. H. Norman Wright. "Everyone sheds tears. Some people do it on the outside, but some are only capable of doing it on the inside. From a health perspective, the shedding of tears is very beneficial to physical well-being.

"The people who are unable or haven't developed the capacity to cry are carrying a heavier load of emotion that can actually contribute to some physical difficulties. I don't think you should ever apologize for your tears because you never apologize for something that is a gift from God."

Pull out your emotions. Face the pain head-on. Mourn loudly. Weep bitterly. Be set free.

When Peter realized he had disowned Jesus three times, he "went outside and wept bitterly" (Luke 22:62). When Stephen, the first Christian martyr, died, devout men "made loud lamentation over him" (Acts 8:2 NASB).

Holy God, I'm so adept at pushing down my emotions that I don't know how to pull them up, but I know that I must. Give me the opportunity and the courage to let my emotions pour out freely. Amen.

And:

"Don't imagine that you're gonna tough this out and make it all by yourself," says Dr. Jim Conway.

Do you have a person with whom you can share your innermost feelings about your loss? Take action to find someone. Often it is helpful to find someone who has experienced a loss similar to your own.

Pray first that God will direct you. Then make a list of family members, friends, neighbors, and coworkers with whom you might share. Pick up the phone and plan a time to meet and talk. You might also call your local church and explain that you just need someone to talk to about your situation. Another idea is to find a grief support group where you can share, ventilate, talk, and find support from others who can truly relate.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

Lord, direct me to the person You want me to have as a friend and confidant during this time of grief. Amen.

So I've prayed about it...and prayed about it some more. Which leads me here, to today's post and sharing this with you. Because I don't want to go through the motions. And I don't want to pretend anymore.

There. Warts exposed.

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." 1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV

How exciting!

Next Sunday, my church begins a new study during Sunday school based on this book. I'm just into the first chapter...but - how exciting!! Here are some tidbits:

Lie 1: God is whatever we want Him to be

This is the first reason why we have so many idolatrous ideas about God today: we are impatient with His silence in this confused age. Donald McCullough quotes newspaper columnist Russell Baxter, who lost his father to an early death, as saying, "After this I never cried again with any real conviction, nor expected much of anyone's God except indifference." We think that if God is all-powerful, He would put an end to the suffering of this world, so we construct a god who puts up with evil for the same reasons we do: he can do very little about it. Or else we turn away from reality and say that evil does not exist.

So a second motivation for idolatry is that we want a God who is more tolerant of us, less demanding, less "judgmental." When a friend of mine left his wife for another woman, he withdrew from his friends at the church and formed new friendships in bars and sports complexes. He felt better associating with people who could accept his choices without judging; he wanted to be affirmed, rather than rebuked, for the "courage" to leave his wife. Just so, we want a God who will not mess with the core of our lives.

(excerpted from 10 Lies about God by Erwin Lutzer)

What are the other 9 lies you ask? Well, here they are:

Lie 2: Many paths lead into God's presence (I can't wait to read this chapter!)
Lie 3: God is more tolerant than He used to be
Lie 4: God has never personally suffered (Oh wow -do some people really believe this??!)
Lie 5: God is obligated to save followers of other religions
Lie 6: God takes no responsibility for natural disasters
Lie 7: God does not know our decisions before we make them
Lie 8: The Fall ruined God's plan
Lie 9: We must choose between God's pleasures and our own
Lie 10: God helps those who help themselves

(excerpted from 10 Lies about God by Erwin Lutzer)

That's just a taste! What a study this is going to be!!

"Our God is in heaven; he does whatever pleases him. But their idols are silver and gold, made by the hands of men. They have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes, but they cannot see; they have ears but cannot hear, noses, but they cannot smell; they have hands, but cannot feel, feet, but they cannot walk; nor can they utter a sound with their throats. Those who make them will be like them, and so will all who trust in them." Psalm 115:3-8

Looking up

Today's thought from Beth Moore's Praying God's Word Day by Day:

"God will sometimes allow things to get bad enough that we will be forced to look up."

"But now having been set free from sin, and having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life." Romans 6:22

He knew.

Well, it's Monday again. You know what that means by now here at In the Throne Room!

So, this song is pretty new...the artists are pretty new to the national scene as well. In fact, the CD that this song belongs to isn't even out yet...If you like what you hear, you can preorder their new CD - "Wonder" - here or here.

Every time I hear this song, I'm reminded again and again that nothing in my life is a surprise to my Maker. Not. One. Thing. At all. I find that the ultimate comfort in my life right now. How about you?

Why don't you just sit back, take a few cleansing breaths, close your eyes and prepare to worship with me...

**Scroll down and pause my player first!**

I'd Need a Savior ~ Among the Thirsty

"Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God." Psalm 43:5

Ahhhhh......

GoD and DoG

Have you seen this? No? I hadn't either until yesterday...but I loved it and wanted to share.

Make sure you play the little video...

GoD and DoG



I have been blessed with many wonderful, loving canine companions in my life.

Right now I share my life with Lulu. She has come into my life at the perfect time. I am not surprised. God's timing is always perfect.

Has the Lord blessed your life with animals? I'd love to hear about them...maybe you could even post a picture on your blog so I could "meet" them...that would be wonderful. No blog? Send me a photo via email...with your permission I'll share your pet's photo here.

"And God made the beast of the earth after his kind, and cattle after their kind, and every thing that creeps on the earth after his kind: and God saw that it was good." Genesis 1:25

Amen.

Will you join me?

I would be so grateful if you would join me in prayer for my Mom...

As many of you know, she had a critical health event on December 21st...one that the doctors did not believe she could or would survive. But she did. However, she came home with some wounds that needed addressing.

I don't want to go into detail here, but suffice it to say that the care she received was less than stellar, despite my best efforts.

Thankfully, 2 of the 3 wounds have now healed. But she is left with one on her left heel that is of great concern. Today she was seen by a friend and former coworker of mine who is a Nurse Practitioner and Certified Wound Specialist in the wound center of a local hospital. She is concerned because one of the pulses indicating blood flow to that foot is quite weak - in fact, it is undetectable without the use of Doppler. My Mom is experiencing pain as well which leads to concern of osteomyelitis, infection in the bone(s) of her foot.

Will you please stand with me in prayer that there is no osteomyelitis and that the wound - with proper care - will begin its healing path...

Thank you, my friends.

"Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours." Mark 11:24

So...I'm waiting

We had a fantastic guest speaker deliver our sermon yesterday. Very thought provoking and attention riveting! He spoke on "Knowing God's Will for You." Hey - aren't we all interested in that topic?!!

But before the sermon began, our wonderful choir delivered a powerful invitation to worship! How can you not want to meet with the Holy Spirit when your spirit is just singing, in every sense of the word!

Yet, as wonderful as the service was, it was also bittersweet. You see, the father and daughter that sang at My Sweet Hubby's funeral service sang a duet. They sang beautifully that day and they sang beautifully yesterday. And I knew that the song they sang would be today's Music Monday selection.

Because, really - aren't we all just...waiting?

**Scroll down and pause my player before listening**

Another Time, Another Place ~ Avalon


Here are some Scripture verses from the sermon...I hope they bless you as they did me.

"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." Isaiah 55:8-9

"And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect." Romans 12:2

"In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:6

"As we seek God's Will, we not only discover His Will, we discover HIM."

quoted from Jamie Smith's sermon, LBBC, 8/16/09

Passin' through...

I receive a daily email from GriefShare and today I thought I'd share the accompanying Scripture verses because, no matter what you're facing or going through, we have true hope in Jesus and we really are just "passin' through."

"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary. But what is unseen is eternal." 2 Corinthians 4:16, 18

Have a blessed day!